Bob Cornelius scanned his 11-year-old son’s classroom during “back-to-school night” last week, hoping to spot his son’s colorful project hanging on the wall.
On a sheet of paper, the sixth-grade students were asked to list their favorite food, TV show, what they want to be when they grow up, among other things.
He grinned as he read some of his son’s responses.
But when he got home, he took a closer at a photo he snapped of the project, and he noticed something heartbreaking.
Those two words stung.
Cornelius knew he couldn’t stay silent. So, the father took to Facebook, to send a message about his youngest child, who is on the autism spectrum.
“As far as I know, (save for one time), Christopher’s classmates have never been overtly cruel to him,” he wrote in a post that has now gone viral with more than 11,000 shares. “What they have done, however, is to exclude him.”
The New Jersey dad is a social worker, who works with parents — like himself — who have children with special needs. He’s constantly giving advice.
“The irony is — I didn’t have a solution for myself,” Bob Cornelius told CBS News.
“It has to start at home,” Cornelius said. “Us parents need to teach our kids.”
Christopher just started middle school this year, and he has to learn adapt to a new school. Cornelius just wished his son would find a friend — anyone, really.
His son, who isn’t too verbal, has a hard time expressing himself.
“He can’t talk about his feelings or anything too superficial,” Bob Cornelius said.
But Christopher knows when he’s not being included, and Cornelius knows it bothers him.
“One thing I have learned from my son, from special needs kids, is that they understand a heck of a lot more than we give them credit for,” Bob Cornelius said.
On Monday, Cornelius sat down with Christopher’s teacher to discuss his son’s predicament. School officials suggested joining an after school club.
Maybe that will work — or maybe it won’t.
At the end of the day it comes down to empathy, Cornelius told parents.
“The only solution I can come up with is to share this with you and ask that you have a conversation with your kids,” he pleaded in his Facebook post. “Please tell them that children with special needs understand far more than we give them credit for. They notice when others exclude them. They notice when they are teased behind their back (a lot of times “behind their back” is right in front of them because they think the ‘different’ child doesn’t understand). But mostly they are very much in tune when they are treated differently from everyone else.”
The post of Bob Cornelius went viral
This heartbreaking and sensitizing post has been shared more than 50,000 times and following it many articles have been written about it and what autistic people are suffering.
Bob and his son received many cards from many people supporting him.